by Maria Teresa Ungson
WE all expect that the Christmas season is filled with fun and joy because it is called the season of giving. But that is mostly for kids. In the adult and professional world, the holiday season can be stressful. Every adult I know is into the Christmas shopping rush. We are all so busy beating deadlines, planning for the holidays, thinking of the holiday menu and shopping for food and gifts to symbolize our thoughtfulness. The truth of the matter is that the holidays can actually drain you out physically, mentally, emotionally and financially! And this could lead to depression too.
HOHOHO! Here are some tips on how to brighten up your Christmas by starting on yourself. You can enjoy and have fun this season but it would largely depend on how you see and handle different situations and on the decisions that you make.
Family Gatherings
A serving of drama with your holiday lechon? If your family fights, or going home triggers bad memories, you can cope. Don’t expect the worst. Focus on catching up with a cousin or enjoying your favorite dish. Make a plan. Have a trusted relative ready to spring you from bad conversations. You can also set a time limit. Stop by for just 15 minutes. Or if you can’t bear to go, just RSVP “no.”
Over-Commercialization
When plastic reindeer and pressure to outdo last year’s gifts are just plain depressing, here are some ways to put the focus back on whatever’s meaningful to you: spend quality time with loved ones, draw from your beliefs, stick to simple traditions and/or make a donation to charity instead of giving gifts.
Over-Committing
Behold the power of “No.” Sounds silly, but practice saying it – out loud, in front of a mirror. Feel free to drop “no” to any holiday invitation. You don’t have to give a reason. Making a commitment to yourself to stay well-rested is healthy. If there’s an obligation you feel you must honor but you’re still feeling overwhelmed, ask for help. Be specific for example ask a friend to bring the salad, and the like.
Financial Worries
You don’t have to spend a lot — or even anything — to show you care. Try buying books, personalizing by topic. You can also write a thoughtful note or make homemade gifts. You can also schedule a coffee or dinner with friends to enjoy one another’s company.
When shopping, create a budget early and stick to it.
Unrealistic Expectations
Life is hectic year-round. Add the pressure to produce a perfect holiday while also being merry and it’s easy to be left feeling bogged down, not festive. So, ditch perfectionism. No time to bake cookies for your son’s classmates? Store-bought cookies are just fine. Forgot the wreath? It’s OK. Your family will forgive you.
Fatigue
Staying up late wrapping presents, devoting days to make tins of chocolate treats for neighbors, or hustling through the mall can be exhausting and take its toll. So take a breather. Remember, you can’t enjoy the holidays if you’re wading through them in a zombie-like fog. Make time to rest and revitalize. Plan nights in with no commitments and head to bed early.
Stress
Relatives. Shopping. Travel. Party planning. Finding childcare. Holidays can add to stress or sadness you feel during the regular year. Always plan a daily “me time.” Just set aside 15 minutes to go walking or do something else you enjoy. If you see a therapist, make arrangements to go more often if you feel you’ll need it. Or ask if you can do phone check-ins in case of crisis.
Breaking Healthy Habits
So you had an extra cup of eggnog. It’s OK. Don’t let a one-time holiday overindulgence derail the healthy habits you work on all year — like eating well, getting enough rest, and taking medications regularly. It would be good to start fresh tomorrow. Try fresh veggies or fruit as a pre-party snack to curb buffet regrets. Avoid alcohol or know your limit. Keep a set exercise and eating routine.
Being Away from Family and Friends
If you can’t make it home this holiday or your friends have other plans, try:
Branching out. Celebrate with folks who will be in town and start a new tradition.
Looking ahead. Plan a visit in the New Year. Focusing on a future visit can take your mind off the present.
Volunteering. It places you around people and the emphasis on giving. Studies show helping others can help improve your mood and well-being.
There are so many options on how to have a stress free, healthy and festive Christmas season. Whether alone or with family or friends one can always choose to be happy. It is a choice that you have to make for yourself…CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY AND ACT ON IT! Live wisely and healthy this holiday season! Enjoy what the season has to offer…be part of it and live life to the fullest! A truly Merry Christmas to all! Cheers!
