by Maria Teresa L. Ungson
Sex is definitely good for you! Numerous studies have shown that regular sex increases immunity from viruses, relieves stress, and even helps protect the health of a man’s prostate gland by emptying fluids held there. It also triggers the release of chemicals that improve mood and ease pain.
Sex is ageless! It’s applicable for all ages. Most people can and should have sex well into old age! While menopause in women does affect sexual drive and function somewhat, there is no reason why healthy men or women can’t experience sexual pleasure at any stage in life. The nature and intensity of the sex may change, but the love and pleasure don’t! If your sex drive has stalled out, don’t fret, here are some tips to rev it up to the fifth gear!
Just do it tonight! Having intercourse regularly helps to keep your sex drive in high gear by increasing the production of testosterone, which is the hormone mainly responsible for libido in both sexes.
Stop smoking. Smoking can clog the blood vessels in the penis in the same way it clogs the arteries of the heart. Quit now and have a more energized sex with your partner in time!
Check all your medications there may be a party pooper among them! There are medications that can cause erection problems and diminished sex drive, including drugs used to treat high blood pressure, heart disease, depression and stomach problems. Consult your doctor on the matter. You can possibly consider changing the brand, dose or timing of your medication.
Start planning for a steamy vacation. It’s really fun to plan and imagine a steamy vacation together. Even if you can’t actually make it, the time you spent with your partner talking and sharing ideas will strengthen your friendship and bonding together. Just by merely planning and discussing it can put the heat on and take you both to bed!
Practice Kegel exercises girl! How to do it? Take note of the muscle you use to stop urinary flow; then practice contracting that muscle, gradually releasing it. Work up to 20 contractions three times a day. Now, this exercise will strengthen the pubococcygeus muscle that is essential for orgasm.
Ginkgo Biloba every day can help guys! The herb promotes better blood flow, getting more blood to the brain and other organs of course!
Make pesto and serve it over pasta tonight. Pesto contains pine nuts that is a great source of arginine, the precursor for nitric oxide; a main ingredient in drugs like Viagra. Arginine helps open blood vessels so blood flow improves.
Every time you pass your partner reach out and touch or kiss him or her! Now, don’t allow these moments to go beyond the kiss or hug. Simply increasing the amount of physical contact you have with your partner will help with desire!
When you’re at a party or out in public with your partner, take a moment to stare at him/her across the room as if you are still wooing one another. Sex falls out of a relationship if you take each other for granted so don’t!
Watch erotic video together…ummm….that will definitely set the mood! You can start talking about the film and tickling each other and end up with great sex!
Say exactly what is sexually on your mind! For instance, you can tell your partner that you saw him/her exercising earlier and that he/she was so sexy. Simply expressing how everyday things make you feel deepens your intimacy when said out loud.
Pretend you’ve just met. We want to impress a prospective partner always. So, pretend that you’ve just met and want to get to know each other better. Do the old romantic routine all over again. Call her and ask her out on a date. Dress up for lunch with him. Buy new underwear! Do all those exciting things all over again and enjoy the experience together!
Create your own intimate rituals. Do something different from the regular daily routine and spend quality time with yourself. Instead of an alarm clock, wake your partner with the aroma of a cup of coffee, do something cute like play with their face or hair. Go out for a monthsary dinner. Give each other massages and play with each other while doing it. Remember, everyone loves playtime.
Go away for a couple of days by yourself. While you’re away, make a list of all the things you love and like about your partner. Call him/her and feel free to engage in phone sex! By the time you get home, you’ll both be greedy for each other and be in a hurry to spend time together alone!
Send the kids away and stay home together. Make love in a different part of the house. It could be in your steamy bathtub, under the shower, in the kitchen using food as props (take your pick: chocolate, red wine, salt, fruits, ice cubes, whipped cream, etc!), in your closet, on the living room sofa, at the stairs (be careful though), do the carwash together at home wearing a bikini and trunks (play with the bubbly foam and get wet together)! The choices are endless!
Don’t get drunk. A small amount of alcohol can set the mood; more can drown the flame of desire or lessen your ability to see your desire through.
Purchase at least one item of sexy lingerie. Soft, silky lingerie can stimulate desire and though you may end up not wearing it after sex, oh well, it has still served its purpose! So, go ahead and purchase a teaser it’ll be worth it!
Tell your partner two things you love about him/her everyday. Love, affection, and mutual respect are the bases for a steamy sex life!
Call your partner at work. Tell him/her in no uncertain terms what you would like to do when he or she gets home. Excitement sparks desire!
Do something physical together such as walking, jogging, bungee jumping, rock or mountain climbing, swimming and the like. Such activities let you see one another in a different light, creating a sense of physical vitality that readily translates into intimacy.
Well folks, I hope these tips will get you into bed all reved up and energized for a bout of sexual activity all throughout the year! Let’s drink to that! Cheers!
